In need of advice!

So last night we went to subway to eat. Deze, who is now 4yrs and 8 months old, choked on a salad, and threw up. This is very normal for her, she does not chew well at all....I have NO idea how to help her more. I remind her over and over to chew, I chop things up...and she still chokes, 4-5 times a week at least.
Anyone out there with any ideas?

Dezire ran away!

Let me first set the scene. Geromy was at work for the day, I had plans with a friend for the afternoon and the kids alone, I NEEDED a shower....We are talking day 3 of no shower!
So I turn on toy story 2, the kids all get glued to it....I sneak up and get a change of clothes and such for a shower...a VERY fast one. I turn on the water....and peak on the kids again, they are all fine. As I step into the shower I hear it, the front door unlock......fear goes thru me as I jump out and grab the robe.
I run to the living room and Deze is NO where to be seen. I go to the door and there she is taking off across the yard at full speed toward the busy road, already out of our fenced yard.
I took off after her and caught her less then 10 feet from the busy road. I get her back to the house, while she is screaming and biting me, and of course everyone within distance of hearing her scream is watching me.....
I ask her what she is doing....to which she smiles and says "NEED a slushie from target"
So I ask her, "were you going to target? and if you got there how would you pay?"
She replies "daddy work target, give Ray Ray money"

So she had this all figured out, except for the obvious safety of a 4.5 yr old child walking 2 miles alone in the rain for a slushie! I love her!!
Our friend then came over and sat with her while I got in my shower.....From now on I guess its night showers while Geromy is here or before 5am when Geromy leaves for work.....

about time to update again!

We have been very busy lately so I have not been able to write on here. Deze goes to the university of MN autism center at the end of July. We were on their waiting list for 8 months. So this is wonderful! Its a 3.5 hour drive each way, 4 appointments, 3 different days, and one is a week from the other 2 days......but all the same we are doing this!
Gabe has become obsessed with Toy Story...big time. He is always asking to go to the store for more toys...and can tell you when Toy Story 3 comes out. We will be seeing that on opening day!
He did super good in school....still not spelling things and does not know his letters, but he can do math like there is no tomorrow in sight!
Yesterday was his and Tajias last day of kindergarden. They are now 1st graders! Gabe cried when he told his para goodbye, so did I and so did she. She will not be at the same school next yr. We will miss her for sure, she was great with Gabe. I worry about a new para, but its just life.
Gaydin starts kindergarden next yr, I am not 100% sure she is ready socially, but time will tell. She can spell and add and write very well so that is a non issue. She just needs to learn to talk when strangers are there!

Deze has been approved for SSI!!! And is down as disabled thru the state now. We have a lawyer ready and willing to help make the school help her! She is still not potty trained or even close for that matter. She had an appt. a couple weeks back and I am noticing they make her nervous, she chews on her fingers till they bleed after appointments...She is still waking up at very odd hours and getting into things all the time, its like having a 15 month old all the time...

Tajia is well Tajia, she said she misses school cause she does not have her friends here. She is going to be the one that runs up my phone bill! She is in 3rd grade math already and is ahead of the class on other things too. But her downfall is that she is a perfectionist. Everything has to be just so. If she writes the letter just a little wrong she erases it and redoes it....over and over....
Summer is here, and we are out in the sun almost every day....the park, the beach, the pool and just going for walks and picnics. Hope everyone out there in internet land is doing good!